Selecting the right sport and club for your child is about more than athletic development or playing time. Parents should do their homework – to learn about a club’s reputation and its policies and procedures to protect all athletes. By understanding the components of an effective plan to handle misconduct, you will be empowered to ask the right questions, spot potential risks and have conversations with your child to monitor activities.
When selecting a sport club or program for your child, an important factor to consider is whether the administrators and organizers have developed a strategy to address misconduct. While the existence of a plan is a positive step, how coaches, volunteers and staff enforce those policies is crucial.
As a parent, you should get straightforward answers to these basic questions before allowing your child to participate.
Critical information to help keep every program safe: Everyone will perform better, soar higher, and get more from sport if they feel safe. This SafeSport online training program teaches the nature of misconduct in sport: how to recognize it, how to prevent it and how to take action.
Recognizing misconduct in sport is critical; implementing the right policies and communicating them to all members of the sport community is the next challenge. While every situation is different, you don’t need to start from scratch.
When everyone - clubs, coaches, staff and parents - understands his/her role, we can work as a team to protect athletes and create the best conditions for sport.
USA Volleyball is committed to fostering a fun, healthy, and safe environment for all its members. We must recognize the safety of our minors lies with all those involved in the sport and is not the sole responsibility of any one person at a club, regional, or national level.
Healthy Sexual Development from Age 6 to Age 18
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Range of Sexual Behaviors: Common Sexual Play to Problematic Sexual Behavior
Problematic Sexual Behavior
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1. Targeting the Victim
The offender targets a victim by sizing up the child’s vulnerability – emotional neediness, isolation and lower self-confidence. Children with less parental oversight are more desirable prey.
2. Gaining the Victim’s Trust
The offender gains trust by watching and gathering information about the child, getting to know his needs and how to fill them. In this regard, sex offenders mix effortlessly with responsible caretakers because they generate warm and calibrated attention. Only more awkward and overly personal attention, or a gooey intrusiveness, provokes the suspicion of parents. Otherwise, a more suave sex offender is better disciplined for how to push and poke, without revealing themselves.
3. Filling a Need
Once the offender begins to fill the child’s needs, that adult may assume noticeably more importance in the child’s life and may become idealized. Gifts, extra attention, affection may distinguish one adult in particular and should raise concern and greater vigilance to be accountable for that adult.
4. Isolating the Child
The grooming sex offender uses the developing special relationship with the child to create situations in which they are alone together. This isolation further reinforces a special connection.
A special relationship can be even more reinforced when an offender cultivates a sense in the child that he is loved or appreciated in a way that others, not even parents, provide. Parents may unwittingly feed into this through their own appreciation for the unique relationship.
5. Sexualizing the Relationship
At a stage of sufficient emotional dependence and trust, the offender progressively sexualizes the relationship. Desensitization occurs through talking, pictures, even creating situations (like going swimming) in which both the offender and victim are naked. At that point, the adult exploits a child’s natural curiosity, using feelings of stimulation to advance the sexuality of the relationship.
When teaching a child, the grooming sex offender has the opportunity to shape the child’s sexual preferences and can manipulate what a child finds exciting and extend the relationship in this way. The child comes to see himself as a more sexual being and to define the relationship with the offender in more sexual and special terms.
6. Maintaining Control
Once the sexual abuse is occurring, offenders commonly use secrecy and blame to maintain the child’s continued participation and silence – particularly because the sexual activity may cause the child to withdraw from the relationship. Children in these entangled relationships – and at this point they are entangled – confront threats to blame them, to end the relationship and toe end the emotional and material needs they associate with the relationship. The child may feel that the loss of the relationship and the consequences of exposing it will humiliate and render them even more unwanted.Download
Please note that there are a number of options and requirements to report abuse.
Report to law enforcement immediately if you are aware of abuse. If abuse includes sexual misconduct report to both law enforcement and the U.S. Center for SafeSport.
Click here for a list (by state) of where to report.
Click here to report to the U.S. Center for SafeSport.
For any other forms of misconduct including: physical misconduct, emotional misconduct, bullying, hazing, and or harassment report to USA Volleyball. Call 1-855-306-7775 or complete the form below to report abuse..
By submitting the form below, you are giving permission to USA Volleyball’s SafeSport Program staff to contact you. Your report will be sent to the appropriate region for review and action. Although USA Volleyball accepts anonymous reporting be aware that doing so limits the ability to investigate and respond.
Out of respect for the importance of this issue and to encourage honest and effective reporting, knowingly making a false or malicious report will not be tolerated and may be a violation of USA Volleyball’s Code of Conduct.
Provide as much information as possible about the person you are reporting.
It may take 2-3 business days for the completion of the SafeSport certification to be updated in your Webpoint record. You may want to print out your certification at the completion of the course and present it to you regional office or tournament director as proof of completion.
Please note that in order to receive certification in Webpoint, you must complete the full SafeSport Training Course. The SafeSport Parent and SafeSport Refresher courses will not be accepted for certification.Take Training Course